Identifying What We Don’t Know How To Do Versus What We Don’t Like To Do

What’s the difference between avoiding stuff we don’t know how to do and avoiding what we don’t like to do? In most cases, there’s a very thin, fuzzy line between the two and sometimes they’re the exact same thing. Growing up, we tend to do things that come easily (or more easily) to us and avoid things that are hard. Or, we focus on what our parents teach us. As adults, those tendencies have become more ingrained and we focus on the easy(er) stuff. In my experience, we don’t like to do things that are hard for us because it can be hard to admit when you don’t know something. In adulthood, most of us don’t like to consider ourselves beginners. It can be hard for us our egos to admit when we don’t know something. If we don’t know how to do something, then we probably convince ourselves that we don’t like it. Continue reading

It’s the Little Things…Little Things To Make Small Differences in Daily Life

There are some little things that are little enough that they don’t quite merit their own post, yet could be immensely helpful to some of you out there. Each of the 5 things below have helped me in big and little ways, and I want to pay it forward. Hopefully, at least one of them can help you too! Continue reading

It’s the Little Things…Noticing Unwritten Rules at Work (or, Set Up Your Office for Success)

Each office has its own unwritten rules of conduct. There are the rules that everybody knows but doesn’t say, such as how long you can acceptably chat with coworkers or how casual you can be on casual Friday, and then there are the rules that everybody might not realize they know but they still follow. One of these unwritten rules in my office is how the computer screens are set up and how clean the desk is. It might seem like a little thing, but I can guarantee that the bosses and supervisors subconsciously take note. Continue reading

It’s the Little Things…Look at Their Feet (Or, How to See If Someone is Trying to Run Away From a Conversation

Raise your hand if you’ve ever been stuck in a conversation. Everybody reading this should be raising their hands. Raise your hand if the other person noticed that you wanted out and let you out. Probably fewer raised hands, if any. Now, raise your hand if you’ve ever noticed that someone else was stuck in a conversation with you…and you let them out. Chances are that you didn’t let them out, probably because you didn’t realize that someone was ready to move on (for any reason at all). “But I didn’t know they wanted out!” Well, here’s an incredibly simple way to know how someone is feeling: look at their feet!

For this week’s post about a little thing that has a large impact, watch the other person’s feet the next time you have a conversation for tell tales of how engaged they are in the conversation. As much as we can make our faces do what we want, our feet always tell the truth. We’ve all been there – smiling at the other person while thinking about how badly you need to get to the dry cleaners before they close, or how you have that report due tomorrow that you haven’t started, or that your email is probably blowing up right now, or that you’re tired of standing and ready to sit down (at your desk/couch). Continue reading

Adventures in…Taming Frizzy Hair

There have been many, many days when my hair looks like I stuck a finger in an electrical outlet just before leaving the house. Okay, maybe not that bad, but I do have a halo of frizz and years of split ends. As a #lazygirl, I dislike styling my hair every day…or even more frequently than once a month for a deserving occasion, so there’s no way that I’m going to blow dry and flat iron my hair every day or even once a week.

I’m not saying that I’ve figured out how to make my hair look better, but most days it now looks better than it looks worse. Growing up, the aesthetic focus was on being clean instead of being all dolled up, and I was involved in swimming instead of dance. So, each lesson I’ve learned to tame my hair is the result of quite a bit of time on YouTube, Pinterest and Google searches, and in front of the mirror. Many frizzy days were experienced while learning my lessons and hopefully my frizzy lessons can help you reduce your frizzy days without spending a lot of time with a blow dryer or straightening iron. Continue reading