Self-Improvement Isn’t Going Anywhere – It’s OK to Take a Break When You Feel Overwhelmed

Do you ever feel overwhelmed by how much self-improvement information is out there? There’s tons of advice constantly barraging us with how to be better at everything – how to be fitter, how to be a better parent, how to negotiate better, how to give back more, how to be more productive, how to go faster, how to go bigger, how to, how to, how to. There are books that can teach you how to improve yourself. There are courses and websites and lectures and conferences. There is so much information out there that information overload is a real thing.  Continue reading

It’s the Little Things…That’s Mint! (Or, Finding Hard-to-See Silver Linings in Clouds)

In my last post, I discussed a sensitive subject that I have never discussed outside of 1 or 2 conversations with my husband, 2 therapists, and 2-3 close friends. As you might imagine, I was extremely nervous about how it would be received. You, my wonderful readers, were very receptive and non-judgemental, which is appreciated more than you will ever know. Thank you.

Optimism is my general outlook on life, despite going through depression a few times. Depression has, somewhat surprisingly, reinforced my drive to be optimistic because I know how tentative my daily happiness can be. One way that I strive to be optimistic is to always look for the bright side or look for silver linings. It’s not always easy though, as Don Marquis eloquently put it:

every cloud
has its silver
lining but it is
sometimes a little
difficult to get it to
the mint  Continue reading

It’s the Little Things…It’s Always Worth An Ask

One of my mottoes has been “it’s always worth an ask”. What’s the worst that can happen? In most cases, you’re told no and you’re exactly where you were when you started. Sometimes, depending on the question, people might think about you a little differently, but that’s only if you ask a weird question.

You’ll probably be pleasantly surprised at how much other people don’t care if you ask them a question or 2. Also, store employees are there to answer questions. Friends want to help you. Strangers probably enjoy helping you out. Your boss wants you to be productive. Unless you’re interrogating someone, they’re happy to answer your questions about 95% of the time. Think about it – does it bother you when people ask you a question? (Yes, after you’ve had coffee.) It probably doesn’t! So why would it bother them? Are you especially annoying so that other people don’t want to even talk to you? I can practically guarantee you aren’t. In fact, you’re probably a really nice person who just has a quick question about something that you’re slightly nervous to ask. So ask the question!  Continue reading

It’s the Little Things…A Tiny Perspective Change to Get You Through Something Hard

Are you going through a rough patch? Are you insanely busy with school and work and kids and life? You’re not alone. This phrase is repeated so often that it’s is cliche by now. But, it’s true! Maybe not in the way that many people mean, but you’re not alone because chances are that someone somewhere has gone through your situation and survived and possibly even thrived. Changing your perspective just a tiny bit can help you power through any situation you experience, and this post discusses one such tiny perspective change.  Continue reading

It’s the Little Things…Strike a Pose! (Or, Get a Two-Minute Mood Boost!)

Dealing with stress? Got a big presentation coming up? Got a little presentation coming up? Or even just need a little confidence boost? If you need a quick pick me up, strike a pose! More specifically, strike a power pose for 2 minutes! In her 2012 TED talk, Amy Cuddy discusses how body language can change our brains. While there is a lot of GREAT information in those 21 minutes, here’s a quick nugget that can quickly and easily help you boost your mood and gain confidence: stand like Wonder Woman for 120 seconds.  Continue reading